This is one of my favorite questions to ask. The answers are always relatable yet enlightening, as if we forget the basic truths of life. In the beginning of this blog post, I’ll share with you 6 things I’ve learned as a life coach and then I’ll share a few life lessons from strangers.
Life Lesson #1 Remember to Enjoy Life
It’s so easy to get caught in a healing trap or to make yourself into a constant self improvement project. But life is meant to be lived and enjoyed. Of course, growing and evolving is important and is a natural part of life too but try to enjoy each step as much as you can. You will never run out of things to work on but you will run out of time.
Lessons about life #2 Find what works for you
Find what works for you in everything. Find something sustainable and as enjoyable as possible. It’s so easy to get caught up in trends and things we see online. We watch an organizational video and shame ourselves for not being more aesthetic or more this and that. I see this especially in new parents. But what really matters is a system that works for you. Something that helps you thrive and if it’s enjoyable even better. If you thrive in beautiful environments – do that. If you thrive with simplicity – implement that.
#3 Don’t be so hard on yourself
This one is obvious but rarely remembered. Our inner critic talks so frequently, we don’t even notice her or how harsh and unfair she can be. Love yourself more, give yourself grace and compassion. It’ll always take you further and feels better. There’s a quote floating around the internet, I don’t know who first said it but it says “if beating yourself up was effective… it would have worked by now.” And that’s the truth. There’s a time and place to give tough love but it is not the norm.
#4 Allowing > Forcing
Allow life to respond to the work you’ve done. Let life meet you half way and exceed your expectations. What is meant for you will never pass you by. You never need to force what is yours. Society has made constant movement and action the norm so when things don’t happen quickly, we force, push, and pull. Then we’re frustrated, bitter, and upset. Allow life to meet you.
Life Lesson #5 You are only 1 pivot away
You are only 1 pivot away from purpose, alignment, change, and so on. One true meaningful pivot and life can look completely different and feel even better. It’s not always about doing more, it’s about doing the right things.
Life Lessons from Strangers
I thought this section would be fun. I asked a few people what the most important lesson they’ve learned in life. If you have one to share – let me know. I’d love to hear it.
- When people show you their true colors believe them and don’t give them more chances than they deserve.
- When life throws curveballs, take them as lessons not as something that’s hindering you from growing.
- If you don’t ask, you don’t get. Ask for what you want. The worst they can say is no.
- It doesn’t matter how much time you’ve invested in someone or something, it’s okay to walk away.